In 2011, while studying for the GREs and wondering what my life would be like as a result of grad school, I decided to give myself some goals of where I saw myself in 10 years. At that time, I was in between campaigns and living paycheck to paycheck. I’ve always been an optimist but the recession really tested that. However, I’m not one to give up when a challenge comes my way, and I’ve always had this Andy Dufresne outlook that “hope is a good thing. Maybe the best of things. And no good thing ever dies.” So I did the millenial thing and wrote a Tumblr post about my aspirations.
It’s been almost four years since I wrote this. I wanted to see if anything has changed because so much has happened between 2011 and now. When I was 24, I never thought I’d be living in Hoboken, NJ, it wasn’t even on my radar. But here we are now and that’s only scratching the surface.
So! Here we go. What I felt in 2011 are in italics and what I feel now is displayed in plain text.
(I believe that you are nothing without your dreams. as I study for the GREs, I like to think about what I’m doing this for)
When I’m 34, I hope to have more experiences like this…
(^me in Montreal, with my bicycle, stumbling upon a Caribbean Festival. This is my favorite picture of myself for I know my smile is there because I’m doing what I love- and that’s to explore!)
I love exploring new cities, especially by bicycle. I really hope that I will receive the chance to do more of that. If I get the chance to go to Europe, I want to go to Sicily (and the rest of Italy of course!), France, Ireland, England (maybe during Glastonbury?), Germany, Spain, Denmark, and Greece. I also want to go on a Canadian tour and visit Toronto, Ottawa, Nova Scotia, and Vancouver. Japan would be awesome, especially with my old roommate, Carolyn- I can only imagine we would have a crazy time there. As for the great United States, I want to go to the Grand Canyon, Yosemite, San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, LA, Chicago, either Memphis or Nashville, Tennessee, and! Go to some awesome southern city and have real southern fried chicken.
Well, I haven’t gone on a trip like Montreal since I wrote this post, haha ^.^. It’s not because of a lack of wanderlust. After I wrote my goals, I ended up organizing campaigns in Albany, Virginia, and realized my dream of working for the Obama 2012 campaign in Florida. Immediately after the Obama campaign wrapped up, I interned and went to grad school full time and there wasn’t time for me to travel…so this is still a very relevant goal =D
I’m making good on this though- my old roommate from college and I are going to San Francisco in March, and in July, I’m visiting one of my friends who is serving our country in Mexico. I’m beyond excited. All I’ve known in my life is the Northeast and now that I have the time and the means to do it, let’s go! I would like to do Portland by this year’s end, but we’ll see what the money situation looks like. If not, definitely next year. I’m conflicted if I’d also add Seattle and Vancouver to the Portland trip since there’s so much that I’d love to experience and I want enough time to truly appreciate it. Also, I need to get to Italy, but once my dad is set to go, I’m there with him. In 2016, I’d like to hit the Netherlands and Denmark because I need to do right by the transit geek inside of me ;D I think I’ll scratch the awesome southern city and fried chicken goal though- I did get that when I was working down there in 2012.
When I’m 34, I hope to live in a city…after growing up in the country, even though it is beautiful, living in a city aligns more with my lifestyle. I don’t want to rely on my car, in fact, I hope that I will live somewhere where I would be able to sell it since I won’t need it or have a one car household. Honestly, if I really needed a car, I could just rent one. I really enjoy public transportation and I want to live somewhere where I would be able to commute via foot, bike, or train. When I was living in DC, I was the happiest I’ve ever been because I got the chance to do that every single day. I lived for my train ride in the morning and my half hour walk back home.
I guess there’s nothing else to say, other than here we are =D.
Adding to that, when I’m 34, I want to have a bicycle collection…consisting of one mountain bike, one hybrid, and one road bike. More than likely, I will also need one of these….
^ some people may say I’m planning to have a hippie family. I say, I just want to teach them about the importance of sustainability and give them a love of the outdoors.
I made good on purchasing a Raleigh Hybrid in 2012 for my 25th birthday =D. Mountain biking is SO MUCH FUN and I’d love to get a decent bike for that. As for the roadie…I’m not sure if I’d use it the way I’d like to. My hybrid fulfills all my needs for recreational cycling…and haha, eventually when I have a family, it’s probably what I’ll use to tote my future children, whether it’s in a Burley or a bike seat. It’s kind of funny to think of my bike like that.
When I’m 34, I really hope that I will have danced a lot. Especially in the rain.
Sometimes I really wonder what my neighbors in the complex across the street must think when I forget to shut the blinds in the midst of a spontaneous dance session.
When I’m 34, I hope that my closet is full of hiking and camping gear because I hope to have hiked up Mount Marcy and gone rock climbing several times.
Hahaha…this is something I still need to make good on. I haven’t lost my love of hiking by any means, it’s just that I haven’t had the time to go since 2011. But I want to change that. I have my friends up in Albany who go on excursions all the time and I’m going to see there’s a weekend where I can go up and join them because hiking is such a huge part of who I am. I used to go at least once a month when I lived upstate.
When I’m 34, I hope that I will make a lot of my food from scratch. Not because it’s the “hip” thing to do but because of the fact that my grandfather made his own meatballs and tomato sauce every single week. It would be a rare occasion in which both of sets of my grandparents made their food from a box. They never made a bad meal; dinner was always fresh and delicious. I want to bring that back into my life. I also hope that I will have a garden in which I will grow my own fruits and vegetables, again- not because it’s the “hip and green” thing to do, but it’s what my family has done for years. We always had fresh fruit and vegetables from the garden.
This still rings true =D Ever since I finished grad school, I don’t think I’ve made a meal that comes from a package and I have no intention to do that anytime soon. Cooking is a huge passion of mine and even though it takes me forever to make food after work, it’s always worth it when I have a week of yummy lunches. I do want to see if there’s a community garden in Hoboken that I can join.
When I’m 34, I hope that I will have performed in a play. I really miss doing theater. The last play I was in was during my freshman year of college. That needs to change.
I still miss doing theater. However, I know that there’s only so much one can handle and I don’t see myself having the time to get back to acting. That doesn’t mean I’m giving up on this goal though. I have always wanted to learn an instrument and perform at an open mic night. It’s been a busy month, but I’ve been meaning to get to Hoboken’s guitar store and sign up up to take some lessons. I feel that will be the best way to realize this dream.
When I’m 34, I hope that I will finally have a dog.
There’s no if. It’s when. I would love to adopt a dog but right now, I don’t have the time to provide it with the life it deserves. But I promise you, it will happen =D
When I’m 34, I hope that I will still be an active volunteer in my community and that I will still be involved in HOBY. I think it’s so important to get involved in youth groups- I know mine changed my life for the better, it’s only right that I share my gift with others.
(^me, with my junior staff, Amanda, and the outstanding ambassadors that we had the opportunity to work with during the 2011 HOBY New York East Seminar. One of my kids aims to be president. Even though he’s a Republican, haha, I hope that he will find success in politics. It is a field that has given me so much and I hope that he will find his bliss in it as well.)
I can’t imagine a day in my life in which service isn’t a part of it. I live for being involved in my community and I don’t see that changing anytime soon. I’m still involved with HOBY and this year will mark 12 years of involvement. The kid I’m talking about who wants to be President? From what I’ve seen these last four years, there’s no doubt that he’s going to make his mark on the world. The only thing I’d like to clarify is that when I said “it’s only right to share my gift with others,” I wasn’t referring to myself as a gift; I was referring to the mission of HOBY which is to develop youth leaders.
When I’m 34, I hope that my professional and academic paths will have led me to a position in which I will go to work everyday knowing that I’m doing something I’m passionate about. I was able to do it once last year- so I know a job like that is out there. I hope that I will be able to do it again…except with benefits ;D
Every day I wake up and want to pinch myself that I’m working in public transportation. All I can say is that the sky is the limit. I hope to continue to learn the best practices, know when to listen and when to speak, and lead genuinely because the ultimate goal is to serve our customers and I’m never going to lose sight of that.
When I’m 34, I hope that my family is strong, loving, and that we’ll always be there for each other. By 2021, my 6 year old brother will be (hopefully) a licensed driver and the rest will be in middle school. My other brothers will be 32 and 28. I really want the best for them and hope they all will have wonderful lives.
All I’ll say is that we’re all smiles. =D To infinity and beyond.
When I’m 34, I hope that I will not have children…just yet. I feel that in order to have a happy family, first- I need to find the right guy who shares my goals, encourages me to learn more about the world, and also has a beautiful vigor for life- don’t know when that’s going to be but hey! That’s what living life is for! Second, I need to do these things on this list before I have kids. I feel that in order to be the best mom I can be, I need to expand my world so I can one day expand theirs as well. Lastly, I want to have children when I know that finances will not be an issue. With the economy the way that it is, I know that I am not in the position that I thought I would be when I graduated college. I want to make sure that we have a comfortable life and I feel that will happen when I’m 35 or 36.
The sentiment is true, but the one thing I’d change is that I’m not going to limit myself to age. I simply want to start my family when the time is right. When I was 24, I wasn’t sure in what kind of position I’d be with my career or if I’d have the means to do what I wanted on this list. Yet, if I keep my head and my intentions where they need to be, I’m not so concerned about being in the position to be a provider anymore.
But hahahaha, there needs to be a Mister for all of that to happen. I still carry the same attitude..I don’t know when I’m going to meet him but that’s what living life is for. Sometimes, when I get frustrated about being single, I think about Gabby Giffords, who is one of my biggest inspirations, and how she met her husband. I believe they met at a Young Leaders Forum in China and she invited him to take a tour of a prison since she had been working on legislation about capital punishment. As weird as that sounds, that’s what I want.
When I was home for the holidays, I got to meet up with one of my friends where we talked about our dating lives. We actually dated for a hot minute in high school but have stayed awesome since. We talked about our ambivalence about online dating. Whereas I haven’t ruled it out, I’ve met some great friends from it, and so many people I know met their significant other from it, but I’m not sure if that’s how I want to continue meeting people. I miss meeting a boy casually, that small talk, and just getting to know each other, without any pressure of meeting them on the fly at that first date. I’ve always been a very open person when it comes to experiences but it’s never felt comfortable for me. In my experience, it feels like you’re rolling at light speed and…when I look at the most meaningful relationships in my life, whether it is with an ex, my friends, or my family…it’s those small moments that I accumulated over time that helped me really get to know a person instead of everything all at once. My friend agreed, stating that he’s just going to focus on living his life, and he’s certain that he’s going to meet the right girl that way. Like I said, I’m not going to rule it out, but….as cliche as it sounds, the best things in my life came when I wasn’t looking for it. It just happened.
I just hope that whoever he is, that he likes having random dance parties. Or at least can laugh at me while I have a random dance party.
And finally…when I’m 34, I hope that I will have more than just a white belt in Tae Kwon Do.