This is one of the things about rape culture that horrifies me the most. We have a shit ton of men (and women) in the world who have raped someone and they have no clue. No fucking idea that they’ve committed one of the most heinous acts you can imagine. Would probably be horrified if someone accused them of rape. I want to know why we live in a culture where someone can be “asking” for rape, even though by the word’s very definition, it cannot be asked for.
I wonder if you were to survey people about how they knew when a person had consented to sex, how many would say, “he/she didn’t say no” instead of “he/she said yes”. I think it would be pretty goddamn disturbing.